"STOP the Mom-Shaming!" I hear this from so many women but still it persists in society today.
We put so much unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be perfect. The destructive comments come from all over; doctors, co-workers, family, friends, and everybody's favorite, strangers. Often you'll hear from older generations that "did things differently," which can be easier to brush off than others. However, there's an underlying behavior that almost all of us display perpetuating this culture unknowingly. Are you ready for it?
We constantly defend our choices, even when they are not being attacked.
For example, once at a lunch with co-workers, the topic of getting dinner on the table on week nights came up. I willingly offered that I gave my daughter macaroni and cheese once a week, but added that it was "Annie's" (organic). My boss then stated, "Wait until you have two kids. We give them good old Kraft twice a week." He didn't seem offended, but I realized I inadvertently shamed him and his wife, by pre-emptively defending my own insecurities about being judged for this dining practice.
I was recently reminded of this concept when I started explaining at length why I stopped breastfeeding my 9-week-old to friends, who also did not breastfeed their children. It was not my intention to stir up their emotions on the subject, so why did I feel the need to justify my choice?
Though it may be difficult at times we need to own our parenting decisions and stop safeguarding them. We are only human. Trust that no parent is perfect and be confident in your efforts. If anyone outright shames you, that's their issue, not yours.
Trying your best is enough. Don't let anyone take that from you.
Do you agree? What are your thoughts on the Mom-Shaming culture? Please let me know in the comments. Thanks for reading!